Domestic abuse is a significantproblem in the UK. Why is this? This is because what we are seeing is fundamentally a lack in positive culture, a freedom to oneself. We need to see a change in behaviour because it plays an important role in people’ mental health.
Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence and abuse, regardless of gender, age, ethnicity, socio-economic status, sexuality or background. Domestic and family violence is a crime. Deliberately hurting and being cruel is an act of violence against humanity.
*In the year ending March 2019, 1.6 million women experienced domestic abuse
Could you please explain it to me in more simple terms?
Reading is the key to understanding our world. I am not here to change the system, I’m here to change our approaches. Change the people, and you change the system. We are in this together. The future is up to us.
“The world hates change, yet it is the only thing that has brought progress.”
Lisa Ower mentions in her article here ‘No matter what the change is, big or small, it must be able to link to your culture, overall purpose and vision of the company. Even if management views the change as beneficial, if your employees can’t link the change to the existing culture or organizational purpose, it will be difficult for them to carry out these transformations.’
Questions to Ask Yourself
How do I think?
How are humans are wired?
How to change my mindset?
What does success look like to me?
How does the human brain react?
What’s in it for me?
Ways to understand my behaviour?
For me change is good change, change is hard. It is part of the human experience. I found change difficult and I felt insecure about myself, but it was worth it.
I made the toughest decision to close my struggling business and lost my home nine years ago. My family fell apart and as a mum I struggled through the hard times, putting myself in a difficult situation. It’s taken a lot of mental clarity to help me find my focus and direction, it forced me to go to the next level. I went through a very emotional journey, me against the world. Sometimes you need to do you and take a step back to live a peaceful and authentic life. Show up and love them hard, only then will you realise what’s important.
“In order to change the world, you have to get your head together first.”
Eventually, realised I needed to take responsibility for mylife and myhappiness. Happiness is a choice. I had to put myself first before supporting my children’s mental health. Happy mum, happy child. It improved my confidence and well-being. My life and motherhood has been a rollercoaster of highs and lows but never boring. Helping my children was a great way to help myself.
What’s your culture, purpose and vision?
I’ve learned through my journey that doing too much for your kids is not an effective parenting strategy.
“Very often a change of self is needed more than a change.”
Read moreon “If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.” – By Philosiblog
If you observe, you will see that people with a positive demeanor enjoy life and change over the years through day-to-day relationships and experiences. Make personal development a priority for yourself. Work hard and avoid the humble brag. Be patient instead of getting angry. Have a cup of tea with a scone and chill out! ❤️
“You have to start with the truth. The truth is the only way that we can get anywhere. Because any decision-making that is based upon lies or ignorance can’t lead to a good conclusion.”
“A work of art expresses itself as a balance sheet pitting the spoken against the unspoken.”
You don’t inspire your teamates by showing them how amazing you are. you inspire them showing how amazing they are.
“Today I bent the truth to be kind, and I have no regret, for I am far surer of what is kind than I am of what is true.”
“When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear.”
“The wise try to adjust themselves to the truth, while fools try to adjust the truth to themselves.”
“Truth hurts but what hurts makes you stronger.”
“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”
“In this era of fake news and paid news artificial intelligence is more and more used as a political tool to manipulate and dictate common people, through big data, biometric data, and AI analysis of online profiles and behaviors in social media and smart phones. But the days are not far when AI will also control the politicians and the media too.”