After a long hard think, and after making a really difficult decision I have decided to let people know what’s been going on.
As some of you may be aware my son has Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) as well as traits of Autism, along with my non-visible disabilities we were struggling to keep our heads above water and overwhelmed by difficulties. Eventually I had to leave my job to become a full time carer for him as neither of us were coping in the situation we were in.
To help myself cope with the drastic change I started writing/creating music in awareness of mental health and how the pandemic has majorly affected not just my mental health, but so many others around us.
Please listen and enjoy this music I have created for anyone and everyone to listen too, to try and help others that are going through a similar situation. Thank you for all your support-it means a lot.
Could you please explain it to me in more simple terms?
Reading is the key to understanding our world. I am not here to change the system, I’m here to change our approaches. Change the people, and you change the system. We are in this together. The future is up to us.
“The world hates change, yet it is the only thing that has brought progress.”
Lisa Ower mentions in her article here ‘No matter what the change is, big or small, it must be able to link to your culture, overall purpose and vision of the company. Even if management views the change as beneficial, if your employees can’t link the change to the existing culture or organizational purpose, it will be difficult for them to carry out these transformations.’
Questions to Ask Yourself
How do I think?
How are humans are wired?
How to change my mindset?
What does success look like to me?
How does the human brain react?
What’s in it for me?
Ways to understand my behaviour?
For me change is good change, change is hard. It is part of the human experience. I found change difficult and I felt insecure about myself, but it was worth it.
I made the toughest decision to close my struggling business and lost my home nine years ago. My family fell apart and as a mum I struggled through the hard times, putting myself in a difficult situation. It’s taken a lot of mental clarity to help me find my focus and direction, it forced me to go to the next level. I went through a very emotional journey, me against the world. Sometimes you need to do you and take a step back to live a peaceful and authentic life. Show up and love them hard, only then will you realise what’s important.
“In order to change the world, you have to get your head together first.”
Eventually, realised I needed to take responsibility for mylife and myhappiness. Happiness is a choice. I had to put myself first before supporting my children’s mental health. Happy mum, happy child. It improved my confidence and well-being. My life and motherhood has been a rollercoaster of highs and lows but never boring. Helping my children was a great way to help myself.
What’s your culture, purpose and vision?
I’ve learned through my journey that doing too much for your kids is not an effective parenting strategy.
“Very often a change of self is needed more than a change.”
Read moreon “If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.” – By Philosiblog
If you observe, you will see that people with a positive demeanor enjoy life and change over the years through day-to-day relationships and experiences. Make personal development a priority for yourself. Work hard and avoid the humble brag. Be patient instead of getting angry. Have a cup of tea with a scone and chill out! ❤️
“You have to start with the truth. The truth is the only way that we can get anywhere. Because any decision-making that is based upon lies or ignorance can’t lead to a good conclusion.”
“A work of art expresses itself as a balance sheet pitting the spoken against the unspoken.”
You don’t inspire your teamates by showing them how amazing you are. you inspire them showing how amazing they are.
“Today I bent the truth to be kind, and I have no regret, for I am far surer of what is kind than I am of what is true.”
“When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear.”
“The wise try to adjust themselves to the truth, while fools try to adjust the truth to themselves.”
“Truth hurts but what hurts makes you stronger.”
“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”
“In this era of fake news and paid news artificial intelligence is more and more used as a political tool to manipulate and dictate common people, through big data, biometric data, and AI analysis of online profiles and behaviors in social media and smart phones. But the days are not far when AI will also control the politicians and the media too.”
“If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.” “Double your money is to fold it and put it back in your pocket.” – Quote by Will Rogers
The bottom line is that we need to cut out all superfluous details and focus on the primary problem. We need to stop selling out to short term profit and one’s personal interest or advantage, especially when pursued without regard for others. Self-interest is selfish and has bad intentions.
There is no need to prove your worthiness and pretend to be someone you’re not. In the end, the pressure to impress people only hurts the people you love most. Speaking to a mental health professional can help you sort out your pain.
There’s always more than one solution to a problem. Spending more money than necessary to fix the original problem, it’s a no brainer. ‘Maketime‘ and ‘invest in the right resources’ there is no quick fix only more problems – Click here to read more on ‘Throwing money at a problem‘
A quote you may have heard “put your own oxygen mask on first, before helping others’. Your mental health is a priority. After birth, responsibility starts.
“People want to share information that is newsworthy – in some sense the truth value is less of a concern,” – says Psychology Prof Geoffrey Beattie from Edge Hill University in Lancashire.
He continues to say “The point about gossip is, the best gossip is juicy gossip – the last thing people are worried about is whether it is true or not.
Everyone takes time to recover from life traumas, whether it’s a mental illness or a physical illness, we need to take care of it. It can affect children and adults at any given time and does not discriminate.
There are plenty of credible videos out there interviewing celebrities. I have posted a YouTube video below of Halsey’s interview. Try checking out her journey and then list videos you know that are credible.
The proverbial saying ‘bad news travels fast’ can be taken literally. In a wider sense it is a comment on human nature being more interested in failure than success.” – quoted here
For all you Nutella chocolate lovers out there spread the love this Valentine’s, with this homemade sweet and rich nutty chocolate spread and high in antioxidants. How about whipping up a jar of your own to serve with waffles, over a slice of toast, or add it into your favourite baking recipes.
My Goodness, My Chocolate is a dairy free chocolate & hazelnut spread, a delicious treat with little ingredients.
1 cup of roasted skinned hazelnuts 1tbsp coconut oil 1tsp vanilla extract 1/8tsp salt 1/2 cup powdered sugar 1/4 cup dark cocoa powder 50g dark chocolate (optional) 100ml of nut milk or regular milk
Put in and grind the hazelnuts to form a paste, add melted coconut oil and blend, then add vanilla, salt, powdered sugar, cocoa powder (you can use melted chocolate) add some nut milk or regular milk until it goes to the liquid thickness that you like. Once finished, pour the chocolate spread into a sterilised jar, cool and keep the chocolate nut spread at room temperature for up to two weeks. ______________________________________
If you make this recipe, please leave a comment, to let me know how you got on.
”We so complex; we’re mysteries to ourselves; we’re difficult to each other. And then storytelling reminds us we’re all the same.” – Brad Pitt
“Happiness is not determined by what’s happening around you, but rather what’s happening inside you. Most people depend on others to gain happiness, but the truth is, it always comes from within.” – Anonymous
Thank you to the photographers for their amazing photos and inspirational quotes.
I am a very sensitive person but also an empath. I take on the emotional and physical pain of people I know, those I love and care about. The pain I experience when I see someone suffering can be very frightening. I would wake up and feel anxiety for no reason. I would feel their pain as if it’s going to happen and I’d have no control over it.
The world needs me right now. The world needs real connection, human connection. The only person that matters is you. There will be times in your life when being selfish is the right thing to do for your health and well-being and other sometimes we need help.
The world needs more compassion, more understanding and more friendships. The world needs more love.
”There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” – Maya Angelou
I hope I have been of some help and have it make some difference to understanding ‘The Pursuit of Happiness’ and the science behind it. Happiness increases feelings of well-being, confidence and belonging.
“Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. – Valerie Bertinelli