Domestic abuse is a significantproblem in the UK. Why is this? This is because what we are seeing is fundamentally a lack in positive culture, a freedom to oneself. We need to see a change in behaviour because it plays an important role in people’ mental health.
Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence and abuse, regardless of gender, age, ethnicity, socio-economic status, sexuality or background. Domestic and family violence is a crime. Deliberately hurting and being cruel is an act of violence against humanity.
*In the year ending March 2019, 1.6 million women experienced domestic abuse
After a long hard think, and after making a really difficult decision I have decided to let people know what’s been going on.
As some of you may be aware my son has Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) as well as traits of Autism, along with my non-visible disabilities we were struggling to keep our heads above water and overwhelmed by difficulties. Eventually I had to leave my job to become a full time carer for him as neither of us were coping in the situation we were in.
To help myself cope with the drastic change I started writing/creating music in awareness of mental health and how the pandemic has majorly affected not just my mental health, but so many others around us.
Please listen and enjoy this music I have created for anyone and everyone to listen too, to try and help others that are going through a similar situation. Thank you for all your support-it means a lot.
The brain is the most complex organ in the human body. One in seven of the world’s population suffer from neurological conditions with over 600 types, including; Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) should be renamed ‘Inconsistent Attention & Internal Hyperactivity’ (IAIH).
Why? ‘Because it is not a decifit of attention, but rather a problem with regulating one’s attention span to desired tasks.’ – Healthline.com
ADHD: Below is a list of some of the enhanced qualities and abilities that exceed those naturally found in non-neurotypical people and some famous celebrities including; Michael Jordan, Jamie Oilver, Will.i.am, Emma Watson, Bill Gates, Paris Hilton & Albert Einstein.
Could you please explain it to me in more simple terms?
Reading is the key to understanding our world. I am not here to change the system, I’m here to change our approaches. Change the people, and you change the system. We are in this together. The future is up to us.
“The world hates change, yet it is the only thing that has brought progress.”
Lisa Ower mentions in her article here ‘No matter what the change is, big or small, it must be able to link to your culture, overall purpose and vision of the company. Even if management views the change as beneficial, if your employees can’t link the change to the existing culture or organizational purpose, it will be difficult for them to carry out these transformations.’
Questions to Ask Yourself
How do I think?
How are humans are wired?
How to change my mindset?
What does success look like to me?
How does the human brain react?
What’s in it for me?
Ways to understand my behaviour?
For me change is good change, change is hard. It is part of the human experience. I found change difficult and I felt insecure about myself, but it was worth it.
I made the toughest decision to close my struggling business and lost my home nine years ago. My family fell apart and as a mum I struggled through the hard times, putting myself in a difficult situation. It’s taken a lot of mental clarity to help me find my focus and direction, it forced me to go to the next level. I went through a very emotional journey, me against the world. Sometimes you need to do you and take a step back to live a peaceful and authentic life. Show up and love them hard, only then will you realise what’s important.
“In order to change the world, you have to get your head together first.”
Eventually, realised I needed to take responsibility for mylife and myhappiness. Happiness is a choice. I had to put myself first before supporting my children’s mental health. Happy mum, happy child. It improved my confidence and well-being. My life and motherhood has been a rollercoaster of highs and lows but never boring. Helping my children was a great way to help myself.
What’s your culture, purpose and vision?
I’ve learned through my journey that doing too much for your kids is not an effective parenting strategy.
“Very often a change of self is needed more than a change.”
Read moreon “If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.” – By Philosiblog
If you observe, you will see that people with a positive demeanor enjoy life and change over the years through day-to-day relationships and experiences. Make personal development a priority for yourself. Work hard and avoid the humble brag. Be patient instead of getting angry. Have a cup of tea with a scone and chill out! ❤️
“You have to start with the truth. The truth is the only way that we can get anywhere. Because any decision-making that is based upon lies or ignorance can’t lead to a good conclusion.”
“A work of art expresses itself as a balance sheet pitting the spoken against the unspoken.”
You don’t inspire your teamates by showing them how amazing you are. you inspire them showing how amazing they are.
“Today I bent the truth to be kind, and I have no regret, for I am far surer of what is kind than I am of what is true.”
“When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear.”
“The wise try to adjust themselves to the truth, while fools try to adjust the truth to themselves.”
“Truth hurts but what hurts makes you stronger.”
“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”
“In this era of fake news and paid news artificial intelligence is more and more used as a political tool to manipulate and dictate common people, through big data, biometric data, and AI analysis of online profiles and behaviors in social media and smart phones. But the days are not far when AI will also control the politicians and the media too.”
For all you Nutella chocolate lovers out there spread the love this Valentine’s, with this homemade sweet and rich nutty chocolate spread and high in antioxidants. How about whipping up a jar of your own to serve with waffles, over a slice of toast, or add it into your favourite baking recipes.
My Goodness, My Chocolate is a dairy free chocolate & hazelnut spread, a delicious treat with little ingredients.
1 cup of roasted skinned hazelnuts 1tbsp coconut oil 1tsp vanilla extract 1/8tsp salt 1/2 cup powdered sugar 1/4 cup dark cocoa powder 50g dark chocolate (optional) 100ml of nut milk or regular milk
Put in and grind the hazelnuts to form a paste, add melted coconut oil and blend, then add vanilla, salt, powdered sugar, cocoa powder (you can use melted chocolate) add some nut milk or regular milk until it goes to the liquid thickness that you like. Once finished, pour the chocolate spread into a sterilised jar, cool and keep the chocolate nut spread at room temperature for up to two weeks. ______________________________________
If you make this recipe, please leave a comment, to let me know how you got on.
”We so complex; we’re mysteries to ourselves; we’re difficult to each other. And then storytelling reminds us we’re all the same.” – Brad Pitt
“Happiness is not determined by what’s happening around you, but rather what’s happening inside you. Most people depend on others to gain happiness, but the truth is, it always comes from within.” – Anonymous
Thank you to the photographers for their amazing photos and inspirational quotes.
I am a very sensitive person but also an empath. I take on the emotional and physical pain of people I know, those I love and care about. The pain I experience when I see someone suffering can be very frightening. I would wake up and feel anxiety for no reason. I would feel their pain as if it’s going to happen and I’d have no control over it.
The world needs me right now. The world needs real connection, human connection. The only person that matters is you. There will be times in your life when being selfish is the right thing to do for your health and well-being and other sometimes we need help.
The world needs more compassion, more understanding and more friendships. The world needs more love.
”There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” – Maya Angelou
I hope I have been of some help and have it make some difference to understanding ‘The Pursuit of Happiness’ and the science behind it. Happiness increases feelings of well-being, confidence and belonging.
“Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. – Valerie Bertinelli
It’s February, the month when love is in the air. February 14th is St. Valentine’s Day and is a great month to celebrate friendship and love. February is the coldest month of the year, a perfect time to cuddle up with a loved one or get a little ‘me’ time this winter. February is a time to listen out for birds singing, connecting with nature and looking out for early spring flowers. A time for wellness and a time for wisdom, spend time every day reflecting on these.
Going to give blood is essential travel during lockdown, a very important one. I went a week ago to the @givebloodnhs centre in London Borough of Hillingdon to give a pint of blood. My 9th donation to date.
Watch the video below “How to Stand Out in Your Industry”
If you’re creative at work and an inspirational speaker then I have selected this short video that I hope you will find interesting. Video by Simon Sinek.
Are you fullfillied by the work you do?
There are some people who seek pleasure at someone else’s expense. They think they get happiness from mistreating others. Follow your own path in life and live your unique path.
I love articles and learning around wisdom and emotional intelligence. When I’m in a state of flow, like being in a river, the flow of water pushes you away. I am focused. 😊
Teaching for long-term memory is not information it’s inspiration. For example, it is not easy to cramm for an exam. “Our curriculum and assessments are not designed with working memory in mind.” Our brains have limited space. If students can’t remember what they’ve learnt, the system is failing them.
We need an education system based on the study by Joe Kirby.